by G. Emma Ryder

Created on: August 25, 2009   Last Updated: August 26, 2009

Where to begin so many problems so little space. The problems start on the first day. Your friends start to pull away, believing that you may become more attractive somehow and steal their husbands or boyfriends. The only remaining friends will be other single ladies, older women that do not care if you do take their husbands or just married group that want to give you advice on getting a new one or how to get the old one back.

Next problem that will arise is parents, yours and his, especially if there are children involved. Neither can believe that he or she actually left and do not want you to keep the children from them. Neither want to babysit or help with bills, appliances that are breaking or lend a empathic ear to listen to your problems. They do want to be involved in your decision making process because they do not want you to make a big mistake and have to move home.

Your job that you worked hard to get is now in jeopardy because you need more money and need a promotion or raise and time off for the children's sicknesses, court visits and child support appointments. Your income now has become limited so you have to do your own hair and nails. The clothes are not updated by the latest fashions each season, you have to wait for hand me downs or salvation army to get their next shipment of clothes in from the rich part of town. You may want to hunt a new job but you must realize that they will not be as understanding about your divorce. You must always concern yourself with the fact that the company is stable and you won't lose your job if the economy goes bad.

You try to make everything last a little longer and try not to create any new bills or payments. Your credit may have already taken a hit because you are behind on paying bills on time. Actually early but on time is only on time if they are early. Keeping that car running is a major priority. Without the car, you don't have a job. Without the job, you don't have a place to live or the car. But you must not mention the divorce to any service related repair man, they will charge you more money. They don't give discounts to single woman with children, they charge more. You are at their mercy. You can try to enlist your brother or father to help with this matter but the fact is they are tired of hearing about it.

Your neighbors will begin to act strange, keeping track of your coming and going. They will take personal responsibility in telling your ex every move you make. They will call the police

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