by Teetant

Created on: August 25, 2009   Last Updated: August 26, 2009

Procrastination, when perpetuated with the knowledge that it imposes undue hardships and problems upon your unfortunate partners, is a selfish, irresponsible, and disrespectful behavior of individuals who are deceptively nice during their courtship, and force their innocent partners to discover and deal with the problem after they are already committed to the relationship.

The word "procrastinate" comes from pro- meaning forward, plus cras meaning tomorrow; and therefore, it literally means to put off till tomorrow. But, as we all know very well, that tomorrow never really comes.

Under a few special circumstances, procrastination can be harmless. Such is the case when people indefinitely delay pursuing their own aspirations and dreams, and end up being underachievers. However, most domestic procrastination is a conscious choice of behavior out of pure laziness that slowly spreads to all aspects of life, and harms everyone in the lives of the procrastinators.

And that brings us specifically to the question of how to deal with a procrastinating partner. It is clear from the title that we are talking about people who have either newly discovered the fact that their partners are procrastinators, or have realized the full implications of the partners' laziness after having committed to the relationship: may it be falling in love, a steady friendship, or even marriage. Clearly, at that stage, the stakes are high and that is why the affected individuals are thinking in terms of how to deal with their procrastinating partners, rather than whether or why to deal with them at all?

Even people who have specific incompetence or inabilities, such as difficulty in writing, dealing with numbers, or remembering things, they owe it to their partners to openly admit their problems before committing to the relationship, and offer to make up for such inabilities by undertaking other tasks they can handle. Not talking about it and leaving it to the partners to discover it later on is as dishonest a behavior as hiding a serious disease is. And the sin is even greater when the procrastinating behavior is out of pure laziness, because, confessing to such a selfish habit of choice is meaningless, and quietly continuing it is purely evil. Unfortunately, many procrastinators are deceitful. They either are not decent and brave enough to admit their habit to their partners, or conveniently treat it as an unimportant detail that can be dealt with when the time comes.

Most procrastinators

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