by Angela Diggs

Created on: August 24, 2009

Rude children come in all shapes and sizes. No matter what their socioeconomic status is, the propensity to be rude is present. It happens from the best educated to less fortunate. When you are parent, your job is to nurture, love, guide and discipline your children. When they are being rude, you are suppose to step in and let them know it is wrong. However, this is easier said then done. Many parents feel railroaded by their children because they tend to let the behavior go on too long.Below are ways to tackle this problem.

Talk to them

When a child is rude, it can come from another place. It helps to understand where the behavior is stemming from before getting angry. take your child to the side and ask them what is wrong. Do so in a loving and caring tone of voice. In many cases, the rudeness is a result of a deeper problem. Once you get to the source, it will be easier to solve.

Be firm

When your child is being rude, nip it in the bud right away. The biggest mistake a parents make is allowing the rudeness to continue. The moment your child is out of line, take them to the side and let them know it is not alright. Remember to be firm at all times. Do not let your children see you waiver on your word. If you say there are consequences for being rude, yet do nothing, your children will use ths against you.

Set limits

Once your child is out of order, you mist draw the line. Do not let it go on and on. Let your child no that you will not have this kind of behavior. If you have to ground them do it. If you have to take away privileges do that too. The point you are tying to make is that you wil not tolerate their behavior.

Discipline them

Rude children develop over time. I believe also that parents have the power to combat this problem. All they have to is set limits and stick to them. For example. you bring your child to the mall and he acts rude to everyone there. What you do is take him or her by the arm and look him in the eye. You look at them and calmly say " You will not act this way here." " Get your act together or we are going home and you will get nothing". Now you do not need to say it exactly like this, but it helps to be direct in what ever you do say. By the way, there is no need to use expletives. This does not look good on your part. Keep it clean.

Rudeness can be dealt with on a mature level. The first step is to get to the root of it. Once this happens, the rest will fall into place. It will not be easy, but it will makes things better.

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