by Tammy Frost

Created on: August 21, 2009   Last Updated: August 24, 2009

Is your husband working long hours and claiming he is a "workaholic"? Many cheating men stay out later than usual and make excuses for their late arrival home. Heading straight to bed and stating that he has to get up early for work, is he avoiding you? Less and less time is being spent together and is the conversations between you and your husband getting shorter and shorter?

After the above questions are answered and you still need to know more, straight up ask him "are you cheating on me?" This will give him a chance to at least be honest with you. If the answer is a dreadful yes, you can now make a mature exit from the marriage. Don't stoop to his level and go cheat on him back. This goes well with the saying, "two wrongs don't make a right."

As many women believe, he will most likely answer no, due to the guilt and unfaithfulness. If this is the case, and you still are not convinced he is being honest with you, then the investigation begins here.

Get closer to his family members, his mother, sister, brother or cousin have to know something. Ask them up front questions about your husband. Men are like women, they need to vent about their lives to somebody. It is only a matter of time that someone close to him will spill the beans about his secret, if there is one.

For an example, some men are mama boy's and even when they are older they share their life event's with their mom. Eventually, the mom will tell her other son or daughter and one of them will end up slipping about something. Cheating leads to lying and lying leads to guilt. If your husband is cheating, he will feel guilty and eventually need to vent to somebody related or close to him. The truth will come out in the end and it is up to you what to do next.

In my case it was his brother who I wasn't even that close to told me the truth about my cheating ex. After asking his brother "is he cheating on me?" With me not knowing how obvious it really was, his brother answered, "what do you think?" I worriedly answered "yes" and his irritated response was "there you go!" Knowing the truth and now seeing the obvious, husbands lie all the time, so do your detective work!

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