by Barbara Kasey Smith

Created on: August 17, 2009

Learning to pay more attention to your children...

Are you a parent who never strokes the head of your child or turns to look them directly in the face and pulls them closer to you and gives them a special hug and tells them how thankful you are to have given birth to them and you truly love them? If you never do this, you should start doing it on occasions. We need to build a child's foundation in this life and the best way to start it is by allowing them to know you are thankful you brought them into your life. Seal the bond with your children at an early stage in their lives and I'll assure you, it will pay off in more ways than one.

Children need to be nurtured and shown we love them and need them in our lives. We should always take the time to listen to their small talk and their serious talk. We should allow them to know that we are there with them through every crisis in their lives. Let them see we are sincere and earnest people about them and how they pick and choose challenges in their lives affects us too.

Never turn a cold shoulder to your children because they will start to ignore coming to you with problems and challenges. Let them know you are there with them if they choose to play sports or a chess player. We should be there to show them we are their greatest supporter in whatever they choose to do. We need to give them praise even if they are not the best and urge them to keep plugging to strive for the achievements they want. We should never show disappointment to them when they have not performed their best but be there to allow them to know there is a time for them to shine and it will come in time. We should always find something special they did during their play time on the field and show them how important they were in whatever it was that impressed us.

I've seen many a parent at football games, soccer games and basketball games yell cruel hateful things to their children while they are on the courts trying their best to perform to the best of their ability and their parents is on the sidelines downing them in front of the entire crowd of people. This is humiliating to them and makes them feel like they are a loser to their coaches and their teammates as well as all those who are watching the game. This is terrible, a parent should not go to a game if they cannot support their child with the proper support. These are our children parents and they need to be strong to make it in their lives and to be people with a solid foundation in their lives so they can be the same for their children.

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