by Rose Blue

Created on: August 16, 2009   Last Updated: August 20, 2009

Yes, but allow me to explain:

I can say with all honesty that I am involved with a married man, but I am not married. Technically, he isn't either. He is in the midst of a divorce. and not residing with her. She left him for a married man five years ago because he has settled down from his younger days and she does not like it.There are no young children involved and everyone is grown. I am somewhat biased to this question, because I am a perfect example of why having a relationship with a married man maybe a good thing. After-all, some of them are human.

First, there are two answers to this question and they are yes and no.

My first answer is yes, you should retreat from your husband if there is nothing left in the marriage to save. When all is lost and there are no talking points or sex left in the relationship. When everything you've tried is not working, that's when you let it go. When the situation escalates in a manner such as this, one must began to suspect that there may be another person somewhere waiting in the corridors for him and he is intentionally creating the situation to find the right time to exit the relationship. When getting home from work goes from 5pm and ends up several nights at 9, then it's time to start the process of being aware of his philandering ways. When that old famous saying goes undeterred about the lipstick on the collar and the smell of cheap perfume began it's reek up your nose and in the corner of your eye, then it's time for you to dump him.

Now I must say no to the other side of the question because:

Getting involved with a married man serves no purpose to you unless he is in the same situation you are in. Get involved if he's consistently calling and trying his damn est to be with you and you know that he is sincere about leaving his former relationship with his ex. If so, put the past behind you and look closely at what's ahead. If he is with a close nit family, then you, my dear, are wasting precious time. Indeed, by having a rendezvous and glorious sex with an experienced married man can be quite lovely, especially if he does things that your former or your present man doesn't do, But after that few seconds of pleasure is over, so is the relationship, if there ever was one. So I say no, don't go to him at all, not even for that famous call into the night. Handle your own affairs by looking forward to meeting Mr. Right someday.

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