by JerinWI

Created on: August 14, 2009   Last Updated: August 18, 2009

The very first thing you need to recognize, when researching this issue is very important. "Why do I feel the need to read, write, or simply share thoughts on this topic." Are you the virtual cheater? Do you suspect your spouse is virtually cheating? Are you afraid of being caught, and trying to learn how to get around that problem without giving up your virtual partner? Have you caught your spouse, whether intentionally or accidentally.

Now that we have that out of the way, it's time to call yourself an offender, a victim, or just plain paranoid person. In short, you are one of these three individuals. People don't just think about this "out of the blue". So here is where it gets a little personal. How do you feel about your actions in which ever role you personally play in "the world of virtually cheating" on your loved (not loved) in your life.

If you are still reading this article, you are either in pain (victim), in pain (offender), or in pain (paranoid person). If you are not in an sort of emotional pain where ever your place is, in categorizing yourself, you are either selfish, or don't have a true value in your relationship.

It is now story time. I myself am a victim. I also could be classified as an offender, not to mention "after being a victim", a paranoid person. Well, now wait a minute...... Am I a paranoid person because of the offender part? That could be a possibility as well.

I am in a very unique situation in my life. I have been married to my spouse for just over 8 years now, having been with her for almost 10. I met my wife while working at a job that I held for about 8 months. When I met her I had an instant attraction for her. As we "brushed shoulders here and there", we got to know each other, and learned to have a lot of fun together (after work). What I failed to mention, was that when I first met her, I lied to her about my age. I told her I was older than I really was at that time, being 20 years old. Oh yeah... She was still married then at the age of 26. I was a young man in love? Or was it lust? She was having troubles at home with her husband, and planned to leave any how, so how could I feel responsible for the divorce? I really didn't, and still to this day don't.

However, knowing that my wife was capable of cheating, always sticks in the back of my mind. It is at first a total thrill to be with a new love. Physical and mental romance "blazing away." But then what happens 3 years into a marriage? After kids start showing

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