by Mari-Anne Grimaldi

Created on: August 13, 2009   Last Updated: August 14, 2009

A lot of younger people get married and immediately want to start a family. As soon as this happens , it changes the whole dynamic of the relationship; usually, not in a positive sense. It is quite an adjustment to live with another person at any age. It makes no difference how well you may think you know someone, as soon as you are married and or are living together, life gets more difficult.

Each and every one of us has our own annoying habits and ways. We don't realize it until they're pointed out to us. Then if it's pointed out by our new spouse, forget about it! That one little remark can become the downfall. All of a sudden, all the bad and annoying habits are flying through the air. That is never a good thing to have happen, especially early on in the relationship. Feeling are hurt and things may be forgiven, but they are stored in the back of our minds for later use (more likely a future argument.)

Also, with the economy with the way it is, It's not easy feeling responsible for another person. This can be very trying. You have to learn patience and understanding like you never have before. Before we get into long relationships , I think we all have a pre-conceived notion of what will be. Very rarely does it fall into place the way we'd like. I think this is why a lot of relationships fail. They simply fall short of what we anticipated from the earliest stages of the relationship.

As time begins to pass, the newness is beginning to wear off and you really need to focus on what's really important. The love and intensity . The whole reason you got into the relationship to begin with. Economy, bills, money, family dynamics have to be put on a back burner for a little while if you want to a chance at making it.

The odds are against all of us. Do we just not care enough to do that? Is this why there is so many broken marriages? In most cases, most people are not willing to make the sacrifices that are needed to make the relationship work.

It takes a lot of compassion and understanding to live the rest of your life with someone. Most of us don't posses that kind of compassion or understanding. We're lazy. If it's broken, toss it in the trash and be done with it. Move on with life. Get right on to the next relationship and hope it works out better than the last experience. If not, no big deal: there's more where that came from. It's pretty insane that we can treat other people like that.

Almost all relationships require a lot of work. Regular inspection, fine tuning,and general maintenance is an absolute necessity. A lot of like this. Love can quickly turn to hate. It is true that there is a fine line. Apparently, alot of us cross that line.

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