by Shannon Repass

Created on: August 12, 2009   Last Updated: August 14, 2009

This immediately made me think of an ex lover. He told me he loved me way too much, and it almost felt as if he was reminding me that he loves me, and not telling me so. When it comes to those three blissful words, I believe they should be kept special. Saying "I love you" is best served with actions that prove the statement. I can't stand it when someone tells me they love me in the heat of boredom, without showing it, over and over again. The love between two people is a beautiful and crazy experience, but constant attachment to saying "I love you" can make the groove dull and repetitive.

As for my ex, he started telling me he loved me a little too soon. It felt as if he needed to hear me say it to validate his own feelings. The frustration of this demand took away from the passion we could have had. Passion one feels for another while going through the "falling" phase can't be described with words. The variety of emotions flowing through your body and soul are very powerful, and completely indescribable. The repetitive use of speaking "I love you" and "I love you, too" to one another takes away from the suspense, mystery, and charm of falling in love.

Without effective communication, a relationship obviously will not last very long. I have found that when a lover is telling me that they love me all of the time, he doesn't have much else to say. If a woman was to tell her boyfriend she loves him too much, she would seem too dependent, or maybe clingy. The same judgment is made for men, except they might seem too protective or demanding. I have been dating a wonderful guy for almost ten months and we both keep an unspoken limit to how many times we say it.

Keep in mind that just because you're thinking of how much you love your special someone, doesn't mean you have to voice it every hour. Remind yourself that your lover loves you, and if you have doubt there might be some insecurity in yourself or the relationship. Love is a crazy little thing and the excitement should be embraced instead of worn out. Enjoy and admire your new-found romance, and allow yourself to be wrapped up in the suspense. When love is not madness, something isn't right!

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