by Norman Bennett

Created on: August 12, 2009

Do you feel like you're not getting the recognition you deserve? Have you worked and reached many of your goals and still feel unsatisfied? Do you feel like you haven't really accomplished anything special until someone notices? Then maybe peer pressure is the path for you!

The best way to know if peer pressure is important in your life, is to look at why you do what you do. Is there a constant and persistent voice in your head asking in every situation, How will this action be perceived by others? Do you obsess, after just completing a project, whether anyone will know it was you that completed the task? Are there things that are secretly important to you that you are not doing or even paying much attention to, because of what people might think? If you answered yes to these questions, then maybe allowing peer pressure into your life, will help.

How to cave in to peer pressure;

First decide what issue you wish to validate. There may be many, so let's just pick one that's most important. Something really tied to your self worth. Something like your looks, your abilities, your clothes, your image, etc.

Once you decide what particular issue you wish to validate, begin to formulate a plan that will prove to all, that in this area, you are very much worthy of their respect.

Carry out your chosen task which proves to the world, that you are who you profess to be. This may take a while - maybe even years - but it will be worth it!

Once the task is complete wait for someone to notice.

If nobody notices, you are not yet validated, and you can't fully cave in to peer pressure until you're completely validated. Now you will have to follow these measures - in this order;

*Start with subtle hints. Gently lead people to your accomplishments and point out your successes.

*Tell as many people as possible how wonderful you are. Don't hold back. You never know who might validate you. It may even be someone in the lunch line or at the grocery store!

*Blow your own horn. Nobody gets anywhere being nice. Make sure they see you. Talk louder if you have to.

*Throw a tantrum. Force those around you to feel bad if they haven't noticed your efforts. Make them realize how hard you have worked, and how much self-sacrifice you have endured.

*Sue them! When someone published a report that Donald Trump was only worth about 150 million and not a billion, he sued. Do whatever you have to do to get validation.

*If anyone refuses to recognize your worth, and even goes so far as

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