by Dossie M Terrell

Created on: August 12, 2009   Last Updated: May 14, 2012

Whether you like it or hate it, there are numerous differences and on many levels in today's families. There are also countless distractions that take away quality time within families, preventing them from coping comprehensively with some of the problems inherent in their differences.

LANGUAGE
In many families, especially among immigrants, two languages may be spoken within the family, as children of these families are more apt to learn English and are in effect living in two worlds linguistically. The children of these immigrants by and large speak the language of their parents or relatives within the home and English when they are with friends or in school. Usually, this duality does not present problems within the family as most parents want their children to learn English and become successful within the Western culture.

SEXUALITY
Many parents today are more accepting of their children's sexual preferences and try to support them when they reveal they are either homosexuals, lesbians or other designations, but there are still some who have difficulty adjusting to this lifestyle. What some families have learned to do is not to judge others because that is a Biblical precept as only God judges. While others have developed a "live and let live" approach within the family and they support that family member.

EMPLOYMENT
Many jobs today are on 24/7 cycles, which means family members may work different shifts and may not see each other as often as they would like. If there are children, shift work can work havoc on relationships if family members have not developed coping strategies. Families can overcome obstacles by creating schedules and sticking to them. Household members should not add to the inherent stress of the situation by not abiding by the house rules.

TECHNOLOGIES
Many homes have two or more computers, which means there is less communication and more text messaging and social networking. Family members should ensure there is time set aside to be with each other. Even though schedules may not be easy to coordinate, all effort should be made to eat at least one meal together during which each family member can discuss what is happening in his or her life. Because time is a restricting factor, write down the things that are important to discuss so that you will not forget them. Remember, making time for each other is essential in developing healthy and productive members of society.

Without a doubt, time is passing by swiftly. What was new yesterday in many instances is old today, but families should not allow themselves to be rushed along in this maelstrom of madness. The composition of society is changing each and every day in a way that society is still sorting out what terms and definitions to use that will characterize these changes. However, families, by working together as a unit, can manage differences or diversity in positive and meaningful ways.

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