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Created on: August 06, 2009
I hate with a startling passion you emotional conmen (and women) that seem to infest most every life. You make overwrought confessions where each adjective is run through a thesaurus twice in an effort to show how repentant you are, how truly in love you are, how elevated you are.
Should one actually have a reaction, you act like it was a joke or that you were misinterpreted and misquoted. It is just to screw with the other person, to exercise what limited power you believe they have in the world. You are effete, trapped in your legendary status that doesn't extend beyond your nose, but find it impossible to own up to the fact.
How dare you do this? How dare you think this is appropriate behavior? And, worse, you get away with it more often than not. You can't tell someone you've always been in love with them, that they are all you've ever wanted, and forget to mention how little this matters to you. You do not get to make that confession to someone going through her own problems, you don't get to use her heart like a hacky sack because you are having not-so-secret second thoughts. I'm sure you feel it is important to confess your eternal love, but you should at least have the moral integrity to add, "but I have a girlfriend whom I love more and to whom I am supposedly committed." That should not be the surprise for her tentative reciprocation.
I have encountered a recent succession of you people who mask your true emotions, mask your insecurities, behind lies and sophistry, behind rhetorical tricks meant to aggrandize. You think that pretending at depth will fool anyone for more than a moment, you think convoluted and improbable stories will shield you from lackluster thoughts, that you will be forgiven for your multifarious sins because you managed to confuse the other party with gibberish. You fear the basic truth that you will be revealed as a fraud.
If you're so damned repentant, prostrate yourself. Apologize honestly and simply, not by making a verbose show. Do not make any effort to make yourself look good for the apology. Were you good, you wouldn't need the apology, and you do. You don't deserve the time it takes for her to read your tripe.
Away, conman!
Sorry things are not going well in your life because the people you were leeching off finally got tired of your games. Sorry that people are seeing through you, but that doesn't give you the right to recruit people who are rightly finished with your having any influence.
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