by Jason Ray France

Created on: August 06, 2009

In this crazy world we live in, it's sometimes hard to know who we can trust. A good starting point is to assume the best about everyone. That isn't usually our initial reaction, but if it were, we'd be more likely to get just that, people's best. Usually people live up to other's expectations of them. If we assume that they're bad, they tend to feel that there is nothing to lose in treating us badly. On the other hand, if we hold them in their greatness, they feel a responsibility to live up to that.

The only motivation that serves everyone, is to love each other unconditionally. What you give is what you get. I would rather err on the side of mercy than judgement. I prefer to be what a friend once referred to me as, while holding me in my greatness, a healing light. I feel a responsibility to live up to that. More than that, I feel a love in my heart that inspires me to do so. If you live a balanced life, you will always be able to trust yourself.

Not everyone is trustworthy, and some relationships may become unhealthy. At times like this, it may become necessary to take a stand for yourself. As with any subject, there are varied ways of taking a stand for yourself. The reason for this is that we are all originals, and therefore, our needs are unique to each one of us. Just because something works for one person, definitely does not mean that it will work for another. Just as taking a stand for yourself could mean admitting that you need help, it could just as easily mean that the time has come to tell everyone else to just plain mind their own business. Only you know which technique is right for you and which will bring you the desired results. There is no doubt that regardless of the circumstances, it is best to forgive everyone, including yourself.

Don't ever be so rigid that you are not willing to be open, to new possibilities that may become apparent. Just as an example, taking a stand for yourself could involve the need to isolate yourself, initially. As a result of taking time to be alone, you may be able to find the answers you were seeking, and it could be the complete opposite of what you originally thought. Maybe that person, or job, or whatever the case may be, is suddenly not so objectionable. You may even discover that the answer was before you all along, it's just the approach that gets to be different. When you love yourself enough, you'll be sure to listen to that inner voice, because you'll know that you are worth it! Never stay in an unhealthy relationship. Make it work if possible, but if not, let it go.

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