by Lisa Moeller

Created on: August 05, 2009

A Lethal Loveliness Litmus Test

My mate came home from work recently and we proceeded to share stories about our day. Apparently, an old co-worker had visited the office where he works. He visited with her for a bit in the reception area before returning to his desk. He promptly received a visit from "Admonition" for spending time talking to "another woman" when he has "a girlfriend at home." My mate was outspoken about the fact that he considers the ex-coworker very attractive. Married with children, but still, very attractive. A "hot numba," if you will.

While I appreciated Admonition's concern on my behalf, it stirred a curiosity in me. I asked my mate if he thought it would have made a difference if the ex-coworker had fit Admonition's definition of average or even (gasp) unattractive? I wondered...

At what point is one unattractive enough to be considered safe? Is there a litmus test for lethal loveliness?

Admit it. You've said it at least once: "What's a guy like him doing with a woman like that?" Women can be quite dense when it comes to attraction. We've all heard (until we want to puke) that beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, but many studies have been done to define beauty in general terms, i.e. the traits that add up to "a hot numba" for most of us. Go ahead. Look up "beauty" and "sexual attractiveness" in Wikipedia. Happy reading.

Obvious, in-your-face beauty can be the distraction to sexual attraction's sleight of hand. There's a difference. Trust me.

While so many women fall prey to the race to maintain and increase the number of traits that keep them in the "beautiful" category, i.e. smooth skin, thick flowing long hair, perky breasts, tight ass, flat stomach, plump lips, bright eyes framed with come-hither lashes, they forget the things that makes them the most beautiful of all: a confident, adventurous, sexually aware lust for life.

Men may fall prey to the immediate gratification beauty provides...they're only stupid for the length of the first conversation. Set two women on a shelf. One is dressed head to toe in trendy fashion. Not a hair is out of place. Makeup is flawless. Mani-pedi is freshly done. She is posed appropriately with a polite smile frozen in place at the risk of smearing the plump, juicy lips. Her eyes are deep pools that reflect her fear of being rejected after she has done so much to be all the beautiful she can be. She's been so busy trying to keep her look of perfection, well, perfected, she

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