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Anger or a feeling of abandonment is not easy to deal with when you have to face the cessation of a dear loved one's death/passing or the cessation of any sort of relationship. You must look to the 'good' and the 'love' that was shared and not to your own, can I call it 'selfish' motive for your reaction. Approximately 13 years ago, my grandmother died. She did not have a sudden death, but a slow course of sickness taking this once vibrant, industrious, and jubilant woman apart piece-by-piece. I loved this woman dearly not merely because she was my grandmother, but because she was my ONLY grandparent that I had ever known. My other grandparents died for various reasons before my birth. As I watched her slowly decline, I prayed about it frequently because I did not want her to 'leave me'. She, however, had raised 5 children and a number of her grandchildren, kept her children going after her husband's untimely death, and was a deaconess in the church. To say the least, 'grandma ruled' and I, as her first grand-daughter enjoyed the special time and place that we had.

The one thing that I kept thinking after her funeral, is that I will see her again some day and she surely will ask about the kids: her descendants. So, I made it my mission to raise them the best that I possibly could. I still remember the long talks that we had and all that she taught me in words and deeds. And through her love of her children, her husband, Her God, and herself, this world is better for it. So now, I smile whenever I see her house and know that she worked hard for others so that they could continue our family's progress. There is nothing to be angry about: As the movie 'Ghost' says '...the Love goes with you'.

Remain blessed.

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