by Dee Cain

Created on: August 02, 2009   Last Updated: August 05, 2009

Keeping the fun alive in a marriage isn't really that hard to do. Remembering to keep the fun in the marriage is the problem, but with a bunch of practice, keeping the marriage fun can become second nature. The degree of fun needed to maintain a marriage should also be examined. Expecting the exhilarating amusement park fun feeling to last throughout a marriage is unrealistic as outside pressures rob us of the energy to keep up that pace. However, putting the marriage first above all other of life's demands and creating that personal touch to the marriage, that is only shared by the couple can save a marriage from becoming routine and lifeless.

Creating Us Time

Almost every day, we hear of couples growing apart. If we look to see why couples grow apart, we find they didn't have time for the relationship in their lives. Many times they have numerous obligations to family or careers, that the marriage is made to suffer since they have no time for each other. This is where creating us time is important. Both of the spouses need to commit to maintaining the bond they created when they exchanged their vows.

Creating us time need not be time consuming. Even running errands together can be enough of a spark to maintain that bit of fun in a marriage. When running errands give yourself enough time for a cup of coffee or an ice cream cone. Leave the children at home and act like you did when you were dating. Holding hands and giving yourselves permission to enjoy just the two of you being together will go a long way toward reconnecting in a fun way.

Taking day trips to places or events that match your interest can keep the fun in a marriage. These don't have to be expensive outings. Simply a trip to a zoo for the day without the children and stopping for lunch. Going to a nearby town for a movie and dinner a couple of times a year will let you reconnect while leaving the pressures of the daily grind at home. The thing is to create a bonding time for just the two of you.

Create That Secret Look

All couples should have a special signal between them which lets the other spouse know when boredom sets in. Whether your at a party or some function which causes you to be apart, be aware of each other's behavior. Then make your excuses and set off for an adventure for a couple of hours by yourself. Give yourselves permission to steal away and just have fun together without others around.

Sharing Interest

Perhaps one spouse likes sports and the other isn't really interested

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