by Victoria Tiegert

Created on: August 01, 2009   Last Updated: September 02, 2009

As women, we have amazing powers over the men that love us. They are so intrigued by us that they are often just waiting with baited breath, so to speak, to see what we have in store for them next. As women, however, we can get so busy with the day to day responsibilities of our lives that we may forget to keep their interest fed.

It is unfortunate when we allow these daily stresses and duties to get in the way of our relationship's health and vitality. In reality, it is fairly simple to keep your man interested and excited by the anticipation of you and your sexual prowess. Some things that are sexy and pleasing to a man are quite obvious, as they are blatantly sexual in nature. But others may not be quite so obvious, yet still just as appealing.

For example, it was only last week that I was feeling a bit frumpy and rather than dress for bedtime in something feminine and pretty, I opted for full cover briefs and one of my husband's big T-shirts. This was, apparently, just the ticket, because before I knew it, my exhausted man was transforming into a snuggling and affectionate romantic. When I asked him where this was coming from, he said I just looked so cute and irresistible in my "outfit". It wasn't, of course, the outfit itself. It was that it was something different for me. Men love to see something new, even if that new thing isn't what you would think of as particularly sexy.

You see, men are intrigued by surprises. Going with this theory, why not give him a surprise underneath your everyday clothes? If you are typically found in your business suit or housewife attire, wear some incredibly sexy undergarments, complete with garters (a sure winner with most men) and be sure that he sees you when you undress for the evening. It is good to have your hair worn up if it's long as men love to see it come down!

Another time that seems to be a sure sex day is Sunday. For some reason, seeing me standing beside him in church and worshipping a God that is bigger than both of us is a complete turn-on for my husband. In speaking to other "church wives", I've found that this is not unusual. Sharing the bond of spirituality seems to be something of sexual happening, as well. It may sound strange, but it is actually true!

Doing something special for your man will also be seen as a sexy act when it is done with love and kindness. Make him his favorite dinner and dessert. Be sure to write a note on his napkin that gives him the idea of what you are looking for as your dessert.

Treat yourself to a day at the salon and most men won't have a single complaint about the bill as long as they can see the difference in you when you return. Having my hair colored last month led to an entire week of excitement for my husband and I. It was like coming home to a mystery woman for him. This doesn't mean that he wants another woman, so never read that into this fascination. It is just that he is waiting to discover what lies beneath this "new you".

Remember, your man wants to continuously discover new facets of you. Show him something new and he will see something incredibly sexy. Keep his interest with the occasional surprise and never let your life or your love become commonplace.

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