by Glenore Weal

Created on: July 31, 2009   Last Updated: August 01, 2009

This is going to be easy, trust me. Experience has taught me that if you want to know if a guy is really into you, you'll know very soon after you meet him. Here's a newsflash, men aren't that complicated. I once asked my brother the age-old question, "What do men want?" Without missing a beat, he responded, "Food, football and sex. Sometimes the order changes, but that's pretty much it." Having had several long term relationships in my life, I'm convinced that my brother was right. Men tend to take deliberate action when they're interested in a woman. The action they choose may not make sense to you, but it does to them.

It's in a woman's nature to analyze everything that is said to us. If he says, "I'll call you later," we spend hours wondering if "later" means later that day, later in the week, later in the year, etc. If he calls at 11 am, we're wondering why he didn't call at the crack of dawn. If he calls at 11 pm, we're agonizing over the possibility that he assumed that we'd be home because we have no life.

If the potential relationship involves men in their teens or early twenties, likely as not, he'll ignore you and pretend not to care. He may still be trying to figure out the best way to interact with the fairer sex and is not quite sure of what move will be most successful. But observe carefully, he will wind up everywhere that you are, hoping to catch a glimpse of you. He might mention you casually to friends. In a group, he'll either ignore you completely or act like a complete fool whenever you're around.

If you're dealing with a more mature man, again, pay attention to the signals. He'll call when he says he will. He'll look you in the eye when you speak and really seem to listen. He'll comment on your anecdotes, chuckle at your jokes, and want to spend as much time as he can with you. Trust your instincts. Body language and facial expressions are key here. A man who is not that into you may seem to be present, but if he's looking around the room when you're together, or starts checking his watch, his mind is elsewhere. If he appears to be rushed or distracted, he probably is. Many men will be honest enough to let you know either verbally or tacitly that they're just not feeling the chemistry, while others will end the encounter with a casual, "I'll call you" and if you're really paying attention, you'll know in your gut whether you should sit by that phone or not.

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