by Lucy Edington

Created on: July 31, 2009

The 'one' we love is usually our chosen life partner, whether that is our husband or wife or long-term lover. They are the one person we expect to be our companions through all of life's highs and lows and the person we must stand by and help in return. There are many reasons why relationships break down, but there are three main ways to reduce the risk of this occurring.

1. Be honest, loyal and bursting with pride

The one you love has reached this hallowed position because they are special to you in lots of ways. This can sometimes be forgotten, within the day-to-day tides of life. If you do start to lose track of all the beauty within your partner, sit for ten minutes and write a 'gratitude list'. Recognize all the little gifts they give you throughout the day. The dinner they prepare, the washing they hang out for you, how they always remember to buy cat food or ask you what you want to watch before changing the channel. If they have stopped doing nice things for you, maybe it is because you stopped being appreciative. Thank them for the little things and watch them get happier and return the favor; making you both feel more appreciated.

In addition to this, nagging and criticizing is not in the least bit sexy or bond-building. Make sure you say more good things about them, both to their face and to others, than bad things. Your partner looks to you for respect, kindness and an ally against the rest of the world. Always make them feel you are a safe harbor and someone to turn to. Be proud of their achievements and encouraging of their aspirations.

Never let arguments simmer for days on end, even if you have to appear to be backing down so that frank discussion takes place. In a truly adult relationship, there are no winners or losers - only two mature people who want to work together to get things back on an even keel.

2. Remember birthdays, other special dates and the things that make them smile

You don't have to spend a fortune to commemorate the milestones and just- because-I-love-yous in life. If you find a nice stone in the shape of a butterfly, say, or a stick that looks like a crocodile, saving these up and presenting them later can mean so much. You might see some 'decorate your own gingerbread men' packs and bring them home for your artistic partner to play with, or write a love poem and send it through the post so they get it one morning after you've left for work. My husband fills one of his long hiking socks for me every

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