by Christina Davis

Created on: July 30, 2009

I'm sorry I didn't mean to do it, I made a mistake, they mean nothing to me, it didn't mean anything Is that the truth or are you just upset you got caught? I accidentally called her, accidentally met up with her, and accidentally had sex? OOPS! In my book there is no such thing! Affairs are more than a lapse in judgment, because they affect everyone around them. Friends feel like they have to choose sides and families get torn apart by affairs.

The aftermath of an affair is always in the air even if you decide for forgive and forget. Secretly you will look through the cell phone just looking for that phone number you don't recognize, or how about looking through the wallet and trying to remember how to refold it so he will not notice. If you have gone through an affair you know what I mean. You will always have those thoughts in the back of your head, what is he doing, why aren't they answering the phone, why are they late. If the affair doesn't end the relationship the constant distrust will.

The worst part of an affair is the fact that it will directly affect every relationship that comes after it. You will never be able to put your whole heart in a trusting relationship. That affair punishment will linger in every relationship you ever have. Relationships are built on trust, security, and love. Is it really worth it to lose that bond over a so called mistake?

Would you ever be able to have a trusting relationship with someone that you met and had an affair with? That person has no values; they slept with you when you were in a committed relationship! In my world they call them home wreckers.

So if you are thinking about making that fatal mistake I suggest you rethink it because NO affair is a mistake! It's a selfish conscience act with devastating consequences. A mistake is turning left instead of right. Mistakes are not plotted and calculated decisions that affect lives. Affairs are plotted, calculated, deceitful and wrong! Did you ever hear the phrase once a cheater, always a cheater. That is not the reputation I would want, you might not hear it but people will be chatting behind your back. Once you have that reputation it will never go away. That's just how society works today.

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