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When I got married 8 years ago, I had one shower, thrown by my mother and my maid-of-honor. My closest friends and relatives were invited. I had a friend that was getting married around the same time and also had a shower thrown by her maid-of-honor. There were over 100 people in attendance. She then had a bride/groom shower/picnic (where gifts were also expected), a personal shower (gifts of lingerie were expected) and then a bachelorette party (where, of course, more gifts of lingerie were expected). I couldn't believe that they were asking so much of people. Some of the people invited to all of these showers were also in the wedding, which meant they were buying dresses, shoes, hotel rooms and gifts for the wedding. Then, not only were they buying gifts for all of these showers, but they were expected to throw the showers as well. It is not fair to the people in your wedding, nor is it fair to the people invited to your wedding. Asking people for gifts over and over again is rude. The multiple shower trend needs to be reviewed by brides and grooms. While the wedding is about the couple, the guests need consideration as well.

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