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How would I feel if my wife just returned from an outing and start telling me how she had a good day with a man I know to be her former boyfriend? Awful, that is how I would feel. I may even feel betrayed as my mind tries to imagine what and what could have transpired, which my wife did not mention in her stories. No matter what the promising prospects may look like, it is not advisable for ex-lovers to be seeing one another as friends again. They should not even be telephoning each other regularly.

The body chemistry

The surest way of falling to temptation is for ex-lovers to still be friends and call each other on phones or communicate through the internet. One thing leads to another. Before long, they may be tempted to make arrangements to see. Old memories can trigger off an irresistible bodily attraction if ex-lovers find themselves together, maybe in a park, a restaurant or in a secluded area. Having been there together before, the magnetism could be revived and it may overwhelm their personal resolve to stay away from each other.

Defilement of marriage beds

For ex-lovers who are now married to other people, the mere fact that a spouse's mind is filled with fantasies for another person and an ex-lover for that matter is regarded as adulterous and a sin. Jesus enlightened the Jews that it is not only the real act of adultery that is sinful but if a man looks at another woman and lusts after her in his heart, he has already committed adultery with her in his heart. There is no way such fantasies could be avoided in the heart of ex-lovers when they see constantly as friends, even if they have never made it to bed together before. As time goes on, the friendship could actually lead them back to the bed.

Betrayal of trust and love

It is a sure sign of love dying between marriage partners if one of them begins to see his or her ex-lover again. True love between two people does not give an allowance for an outside distraction. It is an act of wickedness to one's spouse. It is a way of saying, I am tired of this relationship, and I am not enjoying it again, solet's pack it up.

Division

When two people are married, they begin to have everything in common. Their individual friends become family friends. Now if one of them still maintains her or his friendship with an ex-lover, definitely such association could not be brought into the family. It must be done secretly. Division has therefore been introduced. What God has joined together, has now been put asunder by one's inability to forget the former passions for another person. They are no longer one flesh but two. The assurance of the one spouse still in friendship with an ex may not be sufficient to assuage the fears of the other one.

Family and friends

Other people are bound to feel something and talk if they see such things happening to their friends or relations. It is portrays an indecent behavior and so they may feel compelled to correct it and this would make them to interfere.

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