by Irethere

Created on: July 29, 2009

A long distance relationship has become more frequent today only because of the advancement in communication technologies, but it hasn't been made any easier to deal with. Yes, it is possible for couples to meet on-line, to feel the instant connection, then fall in love, and keep it going for a pretty long period of time. I suppose in that sense, a long distance relationship (LDR) works. But couples in an LDR usually only dwell or survive on the memories of the time they spent together. These bittersweet memories are all there is to hang onto until the next big meet-up. It is a cruel game to play.

Though it is no longer hard to communicate daily, no matter how easy it has become, talking on the phone and seeing each other via web-cam still isn't a good enough substitute for the joy and the level of connection physical presence brings. It could never bring you to the place where no words are needed, a place that demands nothing but his/her presence by our sides. That is the only time when you feel at home after a long time at sea, fighting it out on the LDR-Ship.

And let us not kid ourselves into believing that we aren't living in a time where everything moves two paces faster than we can say 'long-distance-relationship'. It is difficult to shy away from the multitudes of distractions that life throws at us daily. With extremely hectic work schedules to keep, and other friends to entertain first, it is almost impossible to find time for your partner anymore. Before long, both sides start to feel abandoned and plans will either be made to break this horrible spell of distance or ultimately, the relationship. An LDR will never survive the test of time. I imagine it to have an expiry date.

Having been in a long distance relationship for 4 years now, I know firsthand the toll distance can take on a relationship. Trust me, it hasn't been easy. The only thing that keeps us going is the prospect of us being together in a few years time. A long-distance relationship can survive and even blossom if it obeys this one particular rule, - If it is done momentarily. Otherwise it is nothing but a sinking boat. Your love boat will probably stay afloat for awhile, about as long as it takes the cloth plugging the hole in your boat to soak through. But ultimately, you will realise that your boat is just not worth saving anymore. It is a futile fight.

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