A number of young couples who are newly married have arguments about the household chores. While the honeymoon was over long ago, and the couple is back into reality, the stresses of everyday life can be overwhelming for a newly married couple. Adding the stress of who is going to do the dishes, and they will find themselves in an argument.
When two people get married they have to realize that they are not living alone anymore. There is another person sharing the bathroom, the couch, the TV and the kitchen. Everything is fine and dandy when the couple doesn't have to do any chores. But when it comes to who is going to clean up after dinner, plenty of arguments and separations can emerge from that. How will a newly married couple going to divide the chores without arguing?
In most marriages the woman is likely to be the one who will do all the chores in the house. Rarely, a man will take the initiative to clean and tidy up. There are those men who are the cleaning types, but they are quite rare. And if you got yourself one of them, you are a very lucky person. You better hold on to him with all your might, because you are not going to find another one like that.
For those of us, though, who haven't found the Mr. Nice Guy who will do all the household chores, we have to compromise with the one we have. Many couples will argue amongst themselves because the man will not lend a hand to the household chores. He will come home from work and sit in front of the TV with a bottle of beer in his hand waiting for his wife to prepare dinner and take care of the kids. But there are also wives who come home from work and wait from their husbands to do everything. From cooking to cleaning. Both situations can put quite a strain on the couple. The best way, is to divide the household chores from the beginning of the marriage. If not dividing them, then both parties have to agree that they will help with the chores. It doesn't matter if the wife will clean the bathrooms and the husband will vacuum. It depends on the time of the day, the way someone feels and the reason behind not doing the chores. There are occasions when the wife will have to work that extra Saturday, because of a meeting that has come up the following Monday. That doesn't mean that the husband can't pick up the vacuum or clean the bathrooms while the wife works. And vice versa.
It is a good idea, that both parties decide on the day of the week to do the chores. Once there is discipline and organization of who is doing what then there is a better understanding among the couple. This way the wife or the husband doesn't feel that the one or the other is doing most of the household work.
It's admirable to see the wife take the initiative to mow the lawn, because the husband is either out of town or working late. It is also admirable to see the husband vaccum the house.
When both spouses help each other, no matter what the chore is, then that marriage is a happy marriage. This way, not all the housework falls on one's shoulders and he/she feels overwhelmed. By sharing the housework, both inside or outsidet he house, helps build a better relationship between the couple, the marriage is most likely to last longer and will be a happy one. This way the couple can finish the chores quicker and they can have more time to spend together, by either going out to dinner, or catching a movie. An understanding among the couple and the household chores is the best alternative to building a happy marriage, among other things.