by Velma aka Shammah

Created on: July 27, 2009

Interesting topic; caught my eye several times, so obviously there's something wanting to be said by the inner me. As superficial as the topic is, so is this criteria, if it is one that women use to make a choice about whether or not to date a man.

Two things: (1) its not what's on the head, but in the head, and (2) don't judge a book by its cover.

Give me brain over hair every time. I care about what is inside a person. I am not saying that I do not care about what a person looks like, because I do. I believe that my outer appearance is a reflection of my inner essence. If I "choose" to dress or behave externally in a way which would deter or put someone off, I am telling the whole world that I really don't give a damn about myself. I'm not movable on this one.

Note, I used the "choice" word. If a guy is balding because that's just the way it is, or even if he chooses to shave off all his hair, frankly I don't give a darn. It's what's inside that head that matters to me. How does he think; what does he think; is he kind, is he loving?

Our initial attraction to men is quite often a superficial and exterior attraction. I am being honest and am speaking about myself. If I am "repulsed" by how someone looks, I usually won't give them a second thought, let alone a second date. That's just the way it is, especially if that guy is looking for a long-term and intimate relationship. I won't brush him off that easily if I find that he is intelligent, caring and has a lot to give...the world. I can't get enough of that kind of friendship. And, who knows, perhaps somewhere down the line, my new friend might end up being more than just a friend.

Friends are the greatest treasure this world has to offer. Problem is, though, that both sexes rarely think of the other as a potential "friend" and as a result are likely missing a lot of opportunity. It doesn't always have to be about the "sexual" aspect of relating.

Bald; who cares! Personally, I've never even thought about it as being criteria one way or the other. Interesting topic, but not one I can say a whole lot about.

Don't judge the man by the bald cover on his head! Dig deeper - unless you are that superficial. You may be missing what you have been searching for all your life, just because you chose not to scratch the surface and get to know the man 'neath the hairless head.

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