by Samuel

Created on: July 27, 2009   Last Updated: July 28, 2009

It is always better for a marriage to fulfil the promise, "till death do us part" than for it to end in divorce. And for unhealthy marriages, knowing whether to keep fighting fairly to save the marriage or to call it quits is always a tough decision to take.

The decision to quit in a marriage should come after deep and sincere thoughtfulness on the issue. Breakups come with lots of hurts and injuries that take very long time to heal. Except every door has been shut, these hurts and injuries are worth avoiding.

And for marriages with kids, a breakup may affect the kids in the long run. Nevertheless, some marriages still deserve a quit. But how do you know when to call your marriage quits?

Break-ups happen in marriages for so many reasons, most of which are resolvable.

First, here are some of what aren't necessary or enough to call your marriage quits.

- You no longer love your spouse

If you no longer love your spouse, then you need to give yourself a very sincere reason why the love has suddenly disappeared. The first question to ask is this: though it seems I don't love my spouse anymore, but does my spouse still loves me? If it has nothing to do with anything but mere feeling, then you just need a little more time and adjustment. Also, if it has everything to do with how your spouse behaves or recent attitude, then you both need to talk things out.

Love is more than how we feel. If you once loved someone, there is every tendency that the love is still there, and the feeling will pop up again in the right atmosphere or environment.

You may be going through lots of stress or challenges that have affected you emotionally. And maybe your spouse's unconcern for what you're going through has developed an opposite emotional reaction in you towards your spouse.

Making your spouse to see things from the same emotional frequency, and talking things out can be of great help. Sometimes, time can heal and change things quickly.

- Your spouse is no more showing enough financial commitment and responsibility to the marriage as planned.

This can be due to many factors beyond your spouse's control at that particular time. Why not try talking to your spouse about your concerns on the decline in financial commitment. Your little talk and advice may just help the issue. Also, you may discover that it wasn't intentional and if you will just play an extra role, things will flow again even better than they were before.

- Physical assault

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