by Samuel

Created on: July 27, 2009   Last Updated: July 29, 2009

We experience change in every aspect of our lives. Change is normal and married couples are bound to experience change in marriage expectations as the years go by.

What shouldn't change or at least should only experience positive change are couples' attitudes and behaviors toward themselves. In marriages, love, understanding, trust, and respect are expected to grow and get better over the years. A negative change in these elements will result to an unhealthy marriage.

As for expectations, they are bound to change. Such expectations can be financial expectations; things one spouse expected the other to do as time progresses, number of kids, kind of home, kind of jobs, kind of school kids were expected to attend, year-spacing of children, and the like.

What always counts is the couples' ability to adapt to these inevitable changes. When love and respect are allowed to grow in a marriage, couples won't take concrete notice of these changes, because they won't be that obvious to cause negative reactions. True love is bigger than any change. These changes will only make the marriage stronger.

For well-planned marriages, changes that take place are foreseeable and the couples are already more than prepared for them before they take place. This is what all marriages should experience, the combination of two people, working together to make everything a blessing, be it a change or some other thing.

Before marriage, intended couples should go through a serious counseling process of what to expect in marriage. This always helps to ease the pressure when changes start coming. Counseling may come from a paid professional counselor, church counselor, parents of the couples, or any other experienced person the couples hold in high regard. Counseling helps marriages a lot.

When changes start coming, couples are expected to sit together, work together, to bring out ways to make the changes yield positive results to the entire family. Couples should also be very thoughtful to take note of the changes that would be detrimental to the family and avoid them.

Marriage is normally summarized in the terms for better; for worse, till death do us part, and the like. Therefore, every change should never be a stumbling block to the progress of the marriage, but should be seen as a stepping stone to greater heights, successes, and better marriage experiences.

Finally, the answer to the question: Do expectations in marriage change over the years? Absolutely Yes! But these changes can always have a positive effect on the marriage if there is love, trust, respect, and understanding.

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