by Nafeesah The Unusual

Created on: July 27, 2009   Last Updated: February 20, 2010

Getting your marriage to work is like a job itself. It can cause arguments within your marriage, because the two of you are no longer seeing eye to eye. It's hard to know that the person you love and wake up to is not the right person for you. It's even harder because now you may have children together. So what should you do? Should you make it work? Should you call it quits? Should you just stay married and go on to live separate lives? These are some of the many questions that marriage couples ask themselves everyday when they are no longer IN LOVE.

You may think you have the solution, but there are always some downfalls to a decision made in a marriage. As I stated above you may have children together, and this may effect them too. Even though every child is different its still hard for them. Children of a divorced marriage sometimes become distance, and eventually have a lot of mental issues. Hence, the most distance child is the one who is taking it the hardest. They observe what happens in the household before the marriage is final, the arguments and fights. It starts to effect their school work, they stay out more,and they don't want to talk to as much as before. Reason being, they think about what they will say to you and how they are going to say it. That's why it's good for you to make the decision quietly and respectfully for the children.

First, find out whats going wrong in the marriage and see if either of you are willing to change. Doing this could be a good start because a lot of couples even after marriage still don't know how to take their partner. So to prove that you are willing to change, can help feelings towards each other. Second, living separate lives can only make a broken home worse, because there will be no trust. You don't know what each other are doing outside the home, and honestly that's really disrespectful. Your house will not be organized and basically that's not a marriage. With that brings the two choices; making it work or calling it quits. Sometimes it is healthier to call it quits because that eliminates a lot of heart ache if you do decide that you want to mve on. You may get along better and sometimes its easier for the whole family. Everyone will be happier because you two are happy. Leaving a healthy family after everything. If you stay you have to do anything you can do to please one another.

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