by Lucy Edington

Created on: July 27, 2009   Last Updated: July 28, 2009

Your true life partner is someone with whom you want to share all (or most) of your present and future experiences with; someone who you know you will not grow tired of and ever want to leave. This partner will feel wonderfully different to you and yet fit into your world view and dreams in odd little ways, and have interests in common with you. The phrase 'you just know' comes up a lot when people talk of life partners, but there are definitely a few pointers to look out for.

1. They treat you well

This is the most important aspect when identifying a life partner. If this person is going to be with you for a very long time, they have to put you at your ease. This does not mean constant compliments (although sincere ones peppered throughout your time together is a real bonus) but they must make you feel special. Bridget Jones is astounded when Mr Darcy says that he likes her 'just the way you are' - but this should really be a given for any true contender for this esteemed position in your life. You should not have to 'act' with this person and if they are worth their salt they will see through any time that you do. They will enjoy your company and not put you down, and be considerate and affectionate to you no matter who is watching. You'll suddenly realise you feel amazing and interesting around this person, and smile just thinking about them.

2. They make you laugh

Although second in this list, this is again a vital ingredient. They say laughter is the best medicine, and life can sometimes be very cruel and bleak. Someone who is going to share your life needs to keep your morale up and know how to keep you smiling. They can make you see the funny side if you are being too serious, feel better just by holding your hand, or know just the right face to pull to lighten the mood. They don't have to be cracking jokes every minute of your time together, but a sense of shared humour and fun is paramount to a successful relationship. You may only realise just how much you gel in this way when they are the only person you can stand to have around you when you are depressed and miserable.

3. They understand and respect your point of view

This is a natural extension of the first point. Supporting and respecting your opinions will make you feel fairly treated. A potential life partner does not have to agree with all of your beliefs and views, but although they may debate them they are never dismissive and unfeeling. Such a person will work to

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