by Rubab Hamdani

Created on: July 27, 2009   Last Updated: July 29, 2009

When you are getting married you exchange vows and promise to love and cherish each other for the rest of your lives. These vows come form the heart, as no one enters a marriage with even the slightest thought of ever calling it quits.

We are all human at the end of the day and cannot for the life of us foresee the future; no one anticipates failure when entering into a marriage. Each one of us, in our own capacity, tries hard to keep the marriage above board. But destiny is in no one's hand and sometimes a marriage, entered into with love and nurtured with tender loving care falls apart. Things, people, circumstances, feelings and situations change and sometimes after a long sequence of changes one realizes that his/her marriage has transformed into a mere compromise, this is when a marriage becomes soul and spiritless.

Sometimes you are so taken up in trying to keep your marriage healthy that you fail to notice that things have changed irrevocably. How can one know for sure that their marriage has turned stale? Is your marriage still worth fighting for? When is it right to walk out on your marriage? Or how can you decide when to call it quits?

Let us look at various scenarios and try to glean out tips that will help, to reach closure and decide when to close the doors on a marriage.

CHANGED FEELINGS/EMOTIONS/PERSONALITIES

There are a million cases where feelings of one or both of the spouses may undergo drastic changes. Usually this happens when two people grow or mature with time but during this process of growth they unconsciously move in different directions. So much so that they begin to feel a lack of mutual traits needed to bind their marriage. Their needs, wishes, life plans and expectations become so different from each other that they contemplate separation and eventually divorce. They cannot tread the same road simply because they have chosen separate paths.

But before taking any irrevocable step, try to fight hard and look for ways to revive your feelings toward one another, but if after giving your marriage one last honest shot you still feel that you have grown incompatible, it is better to call it quits. How and why two people in love grow so drastically apart is a long debate that cannot be addressed here.

DYING SPARK/FALLING ATTRACTION

Some marriages are based on strong fiery emotions, uncontrollable attraction and sizzling feelings. It might happen that one fine day you wake up to realize that things have gone dull. The force of attraction

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