by Nafeesah The Unusual

Created on: July 27, 2009   Last Updated: February 20, 2010

First, we must all agree, its better to ask a person who had to walk away from a situation like this. Being abused is a very scary thing. I say this because they have already stayed and it didn't work, and it's not. Rather it's the man abusing the women or vice versa, it's hard, and this is a different kind of control over a person. Mentally, physically, and emotionally you have to be ready to leave.

I have been in this kind of relationship for almost two years. My husband has been giving clues as most abusive men do since we have been married. I used to think to myself that this man does not have any respect for me. In my religion we must obey our husband only in the state that it is Halal {Things that are good}. Now when you're a person like me, it's hard not to say what's on your mind and react to what your feeling inside. That is where it triggered, when he started to be him. He did not want me to talk back, or say anything that he thought was offending him. After about 8 months into our marriage we had our first fight and it was not something easy to break up. He hit me and I had to fight back because I was scared of anything worse to come.

From then on we argued and we fought and I had my son October 2008. Then I found out I was pregnant with my second child which makes me 6 months pregnant today. Now I know everyone is wondering why did I pick walk away as my choice? I really have been trying to leave him and I know hands on that abusers will do anything they can do to make the abused stay. Which he did, he tried everything, but I left him. Furthermore we are in a process of getting a divorce. Now I am happy because I know he is no good for me. I was in school and all of my money went to him and I regret it because after all of that I'm starting over. Now who would want to stay in that kind of relationship. I can't and I am going to stay away, and I hope any other man or women would see that it's not good for them too. It's only going to get worse and like any other abusive relationship someone is going to get hurt. Please take my advice, if you are in an abusive relationship, leave while you have enough time to.

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