Monster in law? How to get along with your spouse's family
This might seem like it would take a miracle for you and your in-laws to walk on common ground and get along, but it is possible, if you and your in-laws truly want to get along equally. If you have tried, giving it all your might to get along with them and they have continually rejected you, it's best to explain to your spouse that you'd prefer not going to any family get together because you feel very uncomfortable because of their actions towards you.
If your spouse loves you, he or she will understand. However, if you really want to try and
get along. Try these steps.
1. Always smile. If they see that you always greet them with a smile, it will break the ice, and smiling is welcoming and contagious.
2. Don't shy away from hugs or hand shakes. This gives off a negative reaction, it will make your in-laws feel as though you think they are not worthy of a hug or handshake.
3. Don't be a doormat. In-laws who see you as a doormat, will feel it is okay to walk all over you, stand your ground and show courage.
4. Always feel as though you're as good as them, you're their equals and they are yours. In-laws who get vibes that you feel as though they are better than you, or you're better then they are will react negatively to it.
5. Always ask if they need help with dishes, or serving food or anything, Your in-laws will see that you want to be helpful and they will respect you for that.
6. Don't gossip about other family members, your in-laws will think you're a trouble maker and they will not trust you.
7. Bring a small gift of your appreciation for them, nothing big because they will think you're trying to buy them or be a show off. Just a box of candies, (if they are not diabetic) or perhaps some flowers (if they are not allergic) Just get your spouse's opinion on what to bring as a gift.
8. Relax around them; if they see that you're relaxed, they will in return be relaxed around you.
9. Make them feel comfortable in your home; if your in-laws feel as though you've went out of your way to make them comfortable, they will know that you care about them.
10. Avoid conversations that might be sensitive and could start arguments. Make visits fun and memorable for you, your spouse and in-laws.
If none of this works at least you tried, just go on with your life and be happy alone, with your spouse.