by Sandra Cole

Created on: July 26, 2009   Last Updated: July 30, 2009

Been there, done that. I'm a woman who dated later in life, when men have a good chance of hair loss. And I can say that men should be very happy that women don't have such rigid requirements for the opposite sex as they do. Seldom do you hear a woman give hair color, or presence of such, nor other physical characteristics as their main requisites for choosing a person they'd be interested in dating. So a bald man with a good sense of humor, intelligence, and an affectionate nature could do very well in the dating game.

But to have the necessary personality characteristics that are appealing to women, he must have come to grips with his hair loss. A healthy self-image is very important when going out socially in any situation, including dating. If a person begins to define his being in terms of deficits of any kind, his timid approach to people may become a neon sign advertising his lack of self esteem. Accepting who you are including your less-than-perfect aspects allows people to accept you too, as one of us all- human beings with slight imperfections.

In fact the humility gained from hair loss could make a man more empathetic to others. He may no longer have such strict physical guidelines for the women who come into his life. Looking deeper into their personality qualities, instead of strict weight or beauty guidelines, may actually make him stop and look closer at perfectly nice women who aren't Barbie dolls. A really great real-life woman could greatly enhance his future happiness.

Balding may also come at a good time for men, when they are more sure of who they are and are more able to cope with a small sucker punch to their self esteem. Women at that age are also more reasonable in their perfection expectations. It may be a happy coincidence that both people in a later-life dating cycle are more comfortable in their skins than they were as teenagers just beginning the dating quest.

One of the main causes of baldness is a very strong form of testosterone and having too much of that can't be all bad. As John Glenn put it, When others kid me about being bald, I simply tell them that the way I figure it, the good Lord only gave men so many hormones, and if others want to waste theirs on growing hair, that's up to them. The other things a testosterone endowed man can do may very well make up for a little loss of hair.

So all-in-all, the amount of hair on a man's head should be of little consequence on the dating scene. I should know. I've been in a great relationship for eight years with a bald man, with neither of us hung up on a marriage license but committed to spend the rest of our lives together. The amount of hair on his head has never been an issue in any way. We're proof that you don't need a great head of hair to go ahead with a great life!

So, how does this woman feel about dating bald men? Been there, done that- never been happier!

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