by KKaryn

Created on: July 25, 2009   Last Updated: July 26, 2009

To forgive or not to forgive is the hardest thing to do when the person you love and trusted has broke their word. One thing that I think happens when a person commits adultery, is that they give no thought to the other people that they are cheating on. An affair does not start and end with just the two people involved, it has to do with the families and friends as well and sometimes their jobs.

Yes, I do agree that sometimes things happen, but I also believe that we have to take a stand and stop those things from getting out of control. We always have the right to say no and to walk away. It is when we become uncaring and make the choice to continue in what we know is wrong. Just because you and your mate had a bad morning or bad month, doesn't call for you to cheat, but find out what is the problem and work it out. When you take the vows of marriage there is a part in there that is just for this kind of thing. It goes like "in good times and bad" and the best part, "till death do we part."

If we don't want to forgive our mate then we have to stop and think about the things that we have done wrong and just maybe they are not as bad as an affair, but we are not blameless and should think before we blame others with no understanding. The Bible teaches us that if we want the Heavenly Father to forgive us of our sin we need to first forgive our brothers of the sins that they committed against us. How can we put someones sin above ours, as if our sin is small. Sin is sin, no matter who commits it and we need to understand the power of forgiveness.

We all know the story about the woman who had been with a number of womens' husbands and when the town had enough of her and wanted to stone her to death for her affairs and no doubt half of them had been with her, Jesus told them: 'he without sin cast the first stone'. The best part of that is, Jesus could have cast stone after stone at her, because he was the only one without sin, but he choose to forgive her and send her on her way.

I went through an affair and it held me in my very own jail. I married my first love and he was my world, only to find out that something that I done which was not to his liking, I asked for forgiveness and thought he forgave me, but when time went on I found out that he didn't forgive me in his heart.

I found out that he was having an affair, because things didn't feel right and I thought I was going to die, I went though many changes and never told him that I knew what he was doing

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