Working the nerve to ask someone out for many, is like trying to hold water with a basket, while for others, it could simply pass for breaking an egg shell.

While it will take some moment of planning, calculations and estimations in breaking the ice for some, for others, it's more like knowing that dogs bark. And it occurs often.

Worthy of note is the fact that its more difficult for our female folks. Often times, some simply put it as being out of place.

There are reasons that hold water, and as being responsible for this difference in mind. One of which and perhaps the most commonly encountered, is confidence.

Confidence along side complex goes a long way in staging the pace of events, more so, stretching out to say the first hello.

Also, the fear of being ignored, snubbed, or disappointed creeps in. Whatever be the case, the truth is, we never can tell what our first hello would breed thereafter.

She is pretty, puts you to that soft spot deep down, and tickles your fancy and meeting her eyes your heart skips beat. But then, more like you need someone to take you through the first words to say, or a priest to confirm the outcome as positive if you try.

Don't worry, bear in mind that the worst you can get is a snub, better still, a no. And not a death sentence, not in this age.

No matter how high or low you feel about yourself, firstly, relax your mind, don't be nervous, it could ruin! Break the ice.

Should you break through not being snubbed after the first hello, cheer yourself, offer a drink, get acquainted, not too personal but the basics, exchange pleasantries, we all love to hear that! If time permits, chat on general but simple issues.

Most times, time is never a friend at the first meeting but for some exceptions.

Now if you fall on the other side, then, strike a time and location that is convenient for both of you, a date! But before you depart, don't fail to tell her that they made a great company.

Often times, within the first few minutes, you should have, if any, discovered her interest in you, if you were sensitive to the responses and body language.

Looking forward to your first date, convince yourself that you have popped the champagne; you have bridged the gap, what next? Just drink and walk through.

Don't keep her waiting especially if you initiated the date. Bear in mind that your aim at this point is to step up the heat, create something that has never existed between the both of you, something more sensitive and lasting, a step into commitment.

As she arrives, a warm smile, hand shake would do and don't forget, be calm, relax your mind and be natural.

Conclusively, working the nerve to ask someone out, keep an open mind but be positive in your actions. Whichever direction the wind blows, the skies will remain blue, grasses will keep green, it's no war affair!

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