by Rubab Hamdani

Created on: July 24, 2009

Change is the only constant in this world; it is inevitable, uncontrollable and indomitable. Everything changes, reforms and reshapes it self. The whole universe is caught up in this whirlwind of change, there is no escaping it.

Do expectations in a marriage change? They definitely do, there cannot be two opinions about it. No one can stay the same, as you grow and accumulate experience you are unconsciously changing and in turn making everything around you change. Change has a trigger effect, change in one thing subsequently changes the next and that acts as a catalyst for another change and so on and so forth.

When you are getting married there is all this frenzy of celebration around you and you catch the bug. You are all geared up to have a great time, you are in a party mood and your honey moon is just round the corner. This is the time when you only expect to laze around and have a blast. Your only expectation from your marriage is to be soaked in a shower of love, fun and frolic.

After the first month, reality gradually starts to sink in, as the normal day to day routine starts you fall with a thud, back on Earth. This is the time when you start the growing up process. Both of you have your own busy schedule of the day but you are so much in love that you manage to spend quality as well as quantity time together, it takes time to get over that giddy excitement of the honeymoon. Both parties at this stage of marriage undertake and accept their responsibilities and start their journey towards a life that is full of surprises, i.e, their married life. Right now marriage is about sharing everything and spending as much time together as possible.

As time passes, your situation and environment changes, forcing you to shift your routines and habits accordingly. With the arrival of your first bundle of joy, wham, you are in for it, seriously this is when you have to make major changes in your life. Couples that are both working realize that they might have too much on their plate and one of them will have to at least switch to a part time job if not to a full time stay at home parent situation. This is when one needs full support from each other. Now you expect your marriage to help you share responsibilities and if you are overworked, which you usually are, you need the solace of love and affection. Becoming a parent changes your prospects towards life and you start to look beyond your own comfort, you start financial planning and you start thinking

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