by Bob Schmidt

Created on: July 24, 2009   Last Updated: July 25, 2009

The degree to which men may worry about their male pattern baldness is not justified by the reality of what women respond to when dating opportunities occur. As a man who began losing his hair fairly early in life, the following true story demonstrates how some women feel about dating bald men.

I emerged into the dating scene after a divorce from an 8 year marriage. As a thirty year old male, I admittedly had reservations about how women perceived my balding head. Despite feeling self conscious about it, not dating was no option that was acceptable to me. Finding attractive female company was not a problem, and I enjoyed reasonable success.

One particular day, I made a date with Brenda, a beautiful young lady of 24 with whom I had been sharing considerable time for several months. We had agreed to meet for lunch, and I arrived about ten minutes early. While sipping on a cup of coffee, I noticed that a young woman had entered the restaurant and was surveying the crowd. She seemed to be looking for a vacant table, or someone that she was supposed to meet.

After a moment or two, she approached a table occupied by a single male patron. After a moment, she approached another single man and conversed with him. This scenario repeated itself several times before she arrived at my table and asked, "Are you Bob?" As I verified that my name was Bob, she explained that Brenda had asked her to deliver the message that she would be arriving late to our lunch.

Within a short while, Brenda arrived and joined the two of us. Brenda's friend turned and remarked to her, "Why didn't you tell me that Bob was bald, it would have made it so much simpler to find him!" Brenda's answer was music to my ears as she remarked that she did not think of me as a bald man, and it hadn't occurred to her to describe me in that manner.

Every person is unique in their tastes, and how they respond to things around them. Despite having preferences in many areas, there are always exceptions to what evokes potential romantic interest at a given moment. The cover of no book is an accurate picture of the contents therein.

The only thing predictable about how women feel about dating bald men is that there are no particular rules that apply when the personal chemistry between a man and a woman begins to interact. Everyone is susceptible to the unpredictable effects of having feelings for someone else that were not sought, or ever expected.

How we think that we feel about any particular physical characteristic of another person only applies until we begin to know them. Deep emotional responses do not result from superficial details. Most women are not so shallow that a natural occurrence like baldness would be permitted to limit their available dating possibilities.

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