If you are in your thirties or forties, very much engrossed in your daily routine of going to work, hitting the gym after work, and hanging out with colleagues or friends on weekends, I am sure there are times when you will ponder, "What will happen to me when I get old?"
This is especially true for ladies that work hard, day after day, trying to build their career or merely earn a living. You may start to wonder "Is this the way I am going to live for the rest of my life?"; "Why are my friends married, and with kids but I am still single?"
When you are in your twenties, your parents may be concerned about whether you have found a boyfriend or when you plan to get married. This slowly died off when you reached mid thirties. Your parents concerned may be "Have you been saving money?"
They are obviously concerned about you not getting attached and without sufficient savings for your old age. Life without money could be very miserable, especially if you do not have someone to take care of you.
Is this the way you want to lead the rest of your life?
"Why not I find a handsome guy to just father my kid and I live as a single mother?" said Jane, who is in her late thirties.
"Why would you want to do that? Why choose to have children when you are not married?" said a married colleague Mary.
"Now, not everyone could find someone suitable to live happily ever after. Since Jane could not find her love, does not mean she should be deprived of motherhood. It is not her choice to remain single." said Gary.
"What is good about getting married? My children are messing up my life! I could not do the things I want, I no longer have the freedom for myself and my life only revolve around my husband and children! I would choose to stay single if I have a second chance." commented Lucy.
What is best for you? Nobody could answer that question for you. How to stay happy as enjoy your single-hood? Your mentality is very important. Nobody would love you if you do not know how to love yourself. There is nothing wrong with staying single or being a single mother if you are fully prepared for the challenge. You need to be very optimistic and know how to plan ahead. Globalization has resulted in demand for people to leave their home town, their parents and children to work in another land. Thus, having children does not guarantee that they would be by your side when you grow old.
Staying single allows you all the time to be yourself, and do things that you want, without having to worry about rushing home to your family after work. Treasure your freedom, have proper insurance and financial plans and you have nothing to worry about!