by Nerissa Miller

Created on: July 24, 2009

Friends are important, but friends may come, and grow, especially as we grow up to be more individualistic, and more engrossed in the 'me first' mentality. It is easy to forget about the importance of sharing, and lending a helping hand to people in need because of this fast pace society. Let us slow down our pace, and think about how you can improve yourself to be a better friend. Your friends deserve your attention.

Be there for your friends when they need you, and not just when you need help from them. Good friends do not contact only when they need company, or request a favor. Pay attention to the needs of your friend at the moment. Try to find out if they are bored, going through some tough time, or need help from you.

Take the initiative to stay in touch with your friends. You do not have to wait for them to call. They will be delighted to know that you keep them in mind, and genuinely care for them. Even though you may have a hectic life, a simple message sent through mobile phone or a simple skype message can help you connect with your friends.

Give priority to your friends, if you also want to be in their priority list. Do not delay any response to their emails, messages or note. Your prompt response will show that you care for them, and is always around to help whenever they need you.

Do not bad mouth your friends, or talk behind their backs to mutual friends. You need to be careful with your words, and sensitive to the feelings of your friends.

Be genuine in your relationship with your friends. You should not be jealous of your friend's accomplishments, or happy to see the downfall of your friends. If you have such a mentality, you are not their friends, but just a normal onlooker. Be genuinely happy for your friend who has found a life partner, who has found a better job, or who has obtained higher qualifications. Do not compare, and feel bitter about your achievements. You need to show your support for your friends at all times.

Take note of all the small things that can make your friend happy. She may like certain toy collections, may not like spicy food, or may prefer comedy to horror movies. Try not to put "me" first before your friends, even though both parties should compromise at times so keep the relationship going.

You need to be forgiving, and less demanding. No one is perfect, thus do not keep score, or emphasize relentlessly on the friend's faults. Give them time to improve themselves, while you keep a check on your own weaknesses.

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