by Cody Hodge

Created on: July 24, 2009   Last Updated: August 29, 2009

If you are in college, and you are in a relationship, you will have some interesting situations on your plate. When you are in college, the main goal of your time there should be to learn, and having fun should come second. Clearly, there are no problems with having a good social life, and having one is part of the college experience. However, if you are in a relationship, there are some issues that can come up as a result of that. So how do you balance having a relationship in college, and also making time for school?

The biggest thing to remember is that you are in college to get your degree. The relationships that you have in college should really come second, and should be built in to your schedule as you have time for it. If you have a girlfriend who needs to be with you all the time, it might not be a good relationship to begin with. Make sure that your significant other is aware that you have a busy schedule at times, and that you might need to spend time there first.

It really depends on what your major is when it comes to how much homework you are going to have, and how many classes you need to take. If you are an English major, you are going to be taking a lot of classes that involve little more than writing and reading books. It might be labor intensive in spurts, but the work can be done at any time. There are also a lot of ways that you can write a good story, or a good literary analysis in a short period of time.

Just know when the lulls in your schedule are, and go from there. You shouldn't be committing more than a couple nights a week to your relationship anyway. That doesn't mean you can't see your girlfriend or boyfriend more than that, but you should just have a couple nights a week to hang out, and then the other stuff just works out as it will. That way you will have guaranteed time for your relationship, but still have other nights to do work, or other things that you want to do.

If your relationship is suffering because of the work you have to put in you have two options. End the relationship, or just quit school, because you can't complain about the amount of work that college is. Getting your degree is the first goal, and any other relationships are just something that you have because you have fun hanging out with that person, and you have the time to do so. Relationships should not influence your college life.

Again, just make sure that you are good with the school work first. Keep in mind that each major has things that you have to do that other majors may not. Just try to find slow times in your schedule, and schedule nights with your significant other for when you are free. If your schedules don't mesh it might just not be able to happen, or you will have to deal with only seeing each other when you can. Get your degree, and then worry about getting married.

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