by Alexa J.K.

Created on: July 23, 2009   Last Updated: July 24, 2009

Do men really change after marriage? In my personal opinion, you can't just say the man is the only one who changed. As time goes on, people change, women change just as much as men do - and with the comfort level in a relationship - you may think that your spouse is the only one who changed not realizing the ways you have changed yourself. A good thing to think about while noticing changes in your husband or partner - is how have I changed too?

Obviously during the 'honeymoon' years, everything is great. Spending lots of time together, enjoying each other's company, etc. Lots to talk about, lots to share. After a few years, when your relationship begins to settle down, you tend to find yourself looking at how things used to be compared to how they are now. What's changed - less time together, he's more tired from work, doesn't want to go out much? Through most of this, a lot of women will let their minds wander that their husband/partner doesn't want to be with them anymore or the possibility of an affair. Keeping these thoughts to yourself will eat you up and drive a wedge between you and your partner.

In our society, women dream of the day they get married to their prince charming. Men, however, tend to see this as being 'tied down' whether or not they'll admit it. Women tend to think that the honeymoon years will live on for the rest of their lives, not really believing there will be major changes in personalities. For most part, the women do notice the little personality changes before a man does.

Before I got married, I partied a lot. Weekends, even weekdays! After work, whenever I had free time, I was out and about all the time. Matt was always more of a homebody - he partied too - just not as much as me. When we got together, we partied together, we went out a lot, we stayed home for a few days - we balanced each other out. We had so much fun in our early dating days. There was a lot of excitement, a lot of adventures.

I was pregnant when we got married. My pregnancy months, I noticed the changes in myself as well as in Matt. I ended up being the homebody! Matt worked a lot. I found we weren't sharing or talking as much as we used to, we weren't going out as much either. After our wedding, it was the same. Our lives started to become routine. It seemed that we switched places - I wanted to stay home all the time and he wanted to go out and party every now and then. I felt that I was trying to be more responsible because I was going to be a mom -

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