by Jeanne Sones

Created on: July 23, 2009   Last Updated: July 25, 2009

I was married at a very young age of 17 with my husband. We had discussed many things prior to marriage but he had not personally told me how he felt about children. This turned out to be the worst mistake of my life as he didn't want or care for children.

Around the time I had my third child with my husband, he began to become interested in other things outside the family like racing,and he began some heavy drinking and staying longer at work than usual. He also began treating me very poorly, pretty unkind and inconsiderate too at times . I felt it was the pressure of the job as he was a supervisor at a large factory and had allot of responsibility on the job so I dismissed his actions and tried to make light of it all and he just continued to be involved more and more outside the home and he continued to be away from home and me and the kids a lot.

I found out about his affair with his secretary when he said to me he wanted a divorce and at this time I had no clue he was unhappy, that he didn't love me anymore or that he wanted no children. He moved out and in with the secretary and she promptly wrote me a nasty letter saying all you did was continue to have children and that my husband was sick of it and wanted out. I was devastated to say the least, I couldn't eat nor could I continue anything normal for sometime as this was all a surprise to me as he never made mention he didn't want or like children and I especially couldn't believe that also included his own!

Of course the divorce did get finalized, he was living with the secretary and impregnated her as well and then of course basically dropped his interest completely in his own children now one more child on the way, taking up with a new family and a new woman, basically forgoing our entire existence. It also is interesting to note the secretary he moved in with also had another child by her present marriage so my husband moved in to a house with one tween and then eventually a new baby on the way.

Throughout the years to come, over twenty years have passed and he has had little ot do with his own children or now his grandchildren even though he has now married another woman and become a church goer and makes the claim of Christian and all his sins are forgiven he states yet he still gravitates toward the third woman's children and family and basically has never been a father or grandfather to his own lifeblood.

To the question do men change after marriage I'd say yes they can, however in my

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