by Bobby Coles

Created on: July 23, 2009   Last Updated: May 07, 2012

Marriages are built upon mutual respect, and both parties should be willing to help out the other in every aspect of the marriage. Household chores tend to cause frustrations and anxieties. These household chores should be divided fairly, but not every job should be the sole responsibility of one person. Changing up the roles can alleviate some of the tedious aspects of the chores. Fairness is crucial in dividing up the household chores.

Household chores are an inevitable part of marriage, and they can become a constant source of aggravation and arguments. It is imperative that some guidelines are established right away as to what chores need to done, and how often they should be completed. Once a list of regular chores has been determined, then there can be some designation of an individual to certain chores.

Some chores require certain knowledge, and therefore are typically performed by one spouse, while many chores are ambiguous. This means that there can be some chore sharing, which is beneficial to both parties, because it eliminates a certain ennui with a chore, and it gives a break to the other person.

Household chores should be maintained on a daily or weekly basis, depending on the chore. If chores are not handled properly, and right away, they can become much larger jobs that consume an entire weekend. This will lead to additional squabbling, and potential fights that ruin a marriage.

Chore division should be done fairly, and the chores should be interchangeable when necessary. Spousal disagreements and tedious arguments are often fought over trivial matters, so it is imperative to establish some mandatory guidelines when it comes to the daily operations of a household.

The chores should be divided in the fairest possible manner, so perhaps once a list is completed, you and your spouse can take turns assigning themselves a chore from the list. This will allow some choice over which chores you are taking, which will also give you some ownership over them. If you are anal retentive about the way that the laundry is dried and folded, then it is best if you take that chore, rather than complaining about the job that your spouse does on a regular basis.

Many chores can be done in tandem, and this should be the case. If you are both able-bodied, then it is fine for both of you to shovel the driveway and sidewalk together. Running the vacuum cleaner is a simple enough task, and therefore you could alternate weeks. Some chores are meant for some people, and

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