by Tiffany G King

Created on: July 23, 2009   Last Updated: August 01, 2009

Distance makes the heart grow fonder. Even though we are miles apart you will always be in my heart. How many times have we heard those expressions? Exactly how many of you have been distanced from your spouse to know if those expressions are true? If you are a military spouse then you can relate to this. The military is a very unique community, but unfortunately our spouses can leave at the drop of a hat. How are we supposed to cope? How are we supposed to stay in touch? I hope to answer some of these questions for you.

I have seen a many a military marriages fall apart. A lot of that is due to the fact that one spouse is giving and getting nothing in return. It is not easy being married to the military. I have had to sacrifice my career,We never stay in one place for very long. I have had to leave friends and family to move across the world. Sacrifices had to be made. I have had to give up a lot, but that is where faith and trust come in. My husband really can't pick and choose the way you can in the civilian world. It isn't like he can quit. It takes two to make a marriage work. We both do our part. I can only tell you how we make our marriage work.

My husband goes away for weeks at a time. Being in a foreign land, with our fifteen month old daughter, and taking care of everything myself can be overwhelming. Here is what we do to stay in touch. I email my husband little antics of the day, and funny stories just to talk to him. Communication relies on him. We talk through web-cams, or sometimes phone. I can't talk to him everyday, but he is the one that controls the communication. Email and Myspace allow me to communicate a simple I miss you. He has missed anniversaries, my birthday, thanksgiving, etc. Those times are hard, but we have a special date night before he deploys. When he comes back we have another date night. We have a faith based marriage, so God stays in the center of our marriage. The most important thing that I can do is pray for him. That is the key ingredient that holds us together. Through today's technology, care packages, and a strong bond that holds us together it is easy to stay in touch.

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