by D-Source

Created on: July 22, 2009   Last Updated: July 24, 2009

Most of us, at one time or another, have dreamed of being in a perfect relationship and what it would be like. However, it's not easy to turn that dream into a reality. For many of us, that dream seems more like a fantasy. I suspect that is because, for many of us, that dream is a fantasy. The Prince on a white horse or the little house with the white picket fence and 2.5, perfect kids, etc., is not realistic, for most of us. Men may dream of a beauty queen who can cook and clean and who never complains. Women may dream of Mr. Right who is tall dark and handsome and is rich enough to buy her anything her heart desires. Occasionally, we see or maybe even meet the person who fits right into our vision; perfectly. But why are so many of us not in a successful relationship, right now? And what are the keys to a successful relationship?

In my humble opinion, the first key is to realize the difference between dreams, fantasies and reality. Excuse me for being blunt, but this is not a fantasy world. The truth is, a relationship is between at-least two people. When you have two people, you tend to have two different dreams, two different fantasies and two different views of reality. Your idea of a successful relationship is shattered before you even get started, because the person who fits right into your definition of a successful relationship; may not think you are their perfect candidate. Now this throws a serious wrench in the whole game. Once we stop dreaming and face the reality that the perfect love affairs that we read about in books and see in movies are so rare that we could waste a lifetime searching for it, then we can get down to the business at hand, which is my number two key to a successful relationship.

Now that we are focused on reality, we can begin to see the difference between what we dream of having and what will actually work in our lives, which is the second key. When searching for the right person, we need to decide what we want. Consider the following true example: I use to have a store and sold used Vacuum Cleaners. They were a big seller to women. I would usually point out the one with the best suction, which wasn't always the prettiest one. In fact, it usually wasn't. But time and time again, I would watch these women pick the pretty one, anyway. It was like they expected it to work better simply because it was prettier. Sometimes they'd come back to complain. I'd ask them to make up their mind and decide what they wanted: A vacuum that

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