by Craig Davis

Created on: July 22, 2009   Last Updated: July 24, 2009

When it comes to relationships and dating you have to be careful in this day and age regardless of who you are, and where you are. However once you get past all of the what ifs; STDs, "baby mama" or "baby daddy" drama if that be the case; there are still just those folks that may be plain out insane. If you feel that you can handle or prepare yourself for any or all of the above, go for it. Most importantly you need confidence, personal hygiene is definitely a plus, and a smile never hurts the situation either.

Nothing worse than someone approaching you for a date, looking as if they just got released from Sing Sing Correctional Facility. Or so nervous they are about eight seconds away from a breakdown. That's not cool at all. Everyone has their interests, and you should never feel you are inferior for any reason. That goes for males and females. Pending the surrounding in which you meet, breaking the ice about something that may be going on in the vicinity or a current event may perhaps work.

As a man, I love to see a woman smile. Therefore my goal is to get her to smile by doing or saying anything that will light up her face, if only for a few minutes. If he or she is behind a register, ask about their day, or if they are ready to get off. If so, telling them to take the rest of the day off, or "let me talk to your manager, you seem like such a good employee, you need a break." That usually gets things going. Simple things like that, may just be what he or she needed to pick them up from a bad conversation over the phone or something that may be bothering them for that particular day. Some women may feel that if they approach a man or ask for a date, it seems too aggressive, too bossy. To some men, such as myself, I see that is sexy. It turns me on as I'm thinking to myself, she has a go "get him" attitude.

Even if she isn't the most attractive, I'd still probably be interested becasue of her attitude. Presentation and assertiveness always wins. No one wants to deal with a person that seems to be unsure of themselves. Nor does anyone want to go on a date with someone who appears to be a pompous "a-hole" either. This goes back to personal hygiene. Complimenting someone that they are wearing a nice fragrance, is usually a pick me up, when you know that the fragrance unravels the essence within yourself. Who knows where it can go from there. If you do approacha and are turned down, so what, consider it a loss on their behalf not yours. There is always something better waiting for you, today just may not be the day.

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