Is returning to an ex-partner, ex-lover, ex-spouse repeatedly Karma or weakness? This is a question asked sometimes. This is actually a very complex question and is not easily answered. A professional counselor or psychologist may best to answer it or you can even use one of those psychic hotline people. Whether or not they are certified isn't the only or rather the real question.
Your question should be who can I talk to that will be objective in this. Family can be great but are they really objective? I don't really think they can be. From personal experience the family can either turn on you and route for the team the ex instead when in reality they should be defending their own team. So you need someone who is on the outside who doesn't know either party who will listen to what you have to say, all the way through and help you you're your choice, someone who listens and answers these questions daily. Most importantly, you want to have an opinion that is not obstructed by personal feelings or views (an objective opinion).
Maybe the person isn't really psychic, but they are willing to listen to what you have to say for a fee, which is all that a counselor or any other trained professional does. They may even be willing to give you advice, which is exactly what a trained professional would do.
When a person returns to an ex-partner, ex-lover or ex-spouse, it doesn't necessarily have to have anything at all to do with karma. It is not always a sign of weakness. Some of these women are stronger for the return. (It actually depends on the situation.) Some of them truly are weak. (This also depends on the situation.)
Running From an Abusive Situation:
If you are afraid that the person will hurt you if you leave them, that can be a sign of weakness. If you think you "are nothing without this person" "that you can't find anyone better and that you will be doomed to spend your life alone, if you don't stay with them", that can be a sign of weakness.
Some men have been taught not to hit a woman, and I am so glad for this. However, some of these men end up beaten themselves. You shouldn't hit a woman if you are a man, and a woman shouldn't hit a man. Either situation is degrading to the other. In truth, no one has the right to be hitting or hurting another person or creature, be it physically or mentally. Hurting someone or something else is a sign of weakness, and karma will get these people who do harm.
The karma that they receive is that harm will come their way next, either in this life or the next. Sometimes as karma has it, the person who hurts the other, gets hurt by the counter-part when they end up leaving them. The offending party often times goes to jail. Abuse is definitely a sign of a weakness. Abusers feel that the world revolves around them. They believe that they have to force everyone and everything to do things they want, the way they want or everything will collapse. They are aggressive to a fault, and when everything starts to fall apart they blame it on the other person or people around them. They can and most usually will become verbally and physically aggressive and violent, in a show of their dominant authority. The fact that they are aggressive only shows how weak they really are.
Sometimes, the strongest person in the group is the one that leaves quietly in the night while the aggressive person thinks they have total control. However and even stronger person asks others to help stop the aggressive behavior. It is usually not a good idea to return to the aggressive party. This can be mistaken for weakness by the aggressive party. If they want to be with that person they will have to show that they are strong enough to lead too and they will absolutely have to follow all the steps to getting that person on a more appropriate path in order stop the cycle and to change offending party's ways, but they must be strong an unbending in their resolve to not let the abusive cycle continue. If the non-aggressive party bends even once, the cycle will start again. Both the parties (the person who is doing the harm and the person who has decided to stay) need a professional to talk to (someone whose views are no obscured by their feelings for one person or the other-an objective point of view). They need someone to give them advice. Nobody should go through this alone. In this case scenario, I suggest a family counselor and a psychiatrist for both parties.
If the reason you keep returning to the ex-lover or ex-spouse is because you want to try and help that person find the right path, you may be strong in your need to help, but weak in reasoning. Not everyone can be saved. Some don't want to be saved. Most don't believe they need to be saved. Sometimes it is best to save yourself first and let others more experienced and trained take over. You can't save everyone. No one can save everybody. People die trying to save the world constantly. Some people won't even listen to anyone, not even to themselves, doomed to forever repeat their mistakes till they learn or until things end horribly. Hopefully they will learn. But the person that keeps returning to this may want to seek professional help themselves. Friends and family can't always be objective, but are usually glad you thought of them. It is usually best to talk to someone who can be more objective, so that they get the help they need.
Sometimes if these people say they want to change, they just might, but it will take work and help (help you just can't give them on your own.) Sometimes the person may not want to change, but will tell other person they want to, just to get them to stay. These people get off on hurting others. If they can be changed, then great, you most likely can't change them by yourself. You will most definitely need a professional to help get the ball rolling. I suggest talking to counselors and a psychiatrist. You can talk to a psychic for your own self, but you will need a more professional person for these people who hurt others. The important thing is that you get him/her to talk to someone. It is extremely important that you both are talking to someone, that you both are getting some sort of counseling (outside intervention) to help you through these hard times.
Some people will not listen to their significant others at all (for the mere fact that you are looked at as being week for even being their with them.) They can't see how strong you really are for sticking around, for putting up with the verbal or/and physical abuse. These people absolutely need outside intervention. Get them help right away. They will never get better on their own. You will need to get yourelf help too. It is guaranteed that you have suffered emotional damage as well the longer you have put up with this. You will have a lot of things you will need to sort out that you may not be able to sort out on your own. Most abusers will try and seperate the abused from family and friends. They will suffer from emotional trauma that will make them feel alone and isolated.
Running Because you Feel Like a Rat In a Cage:
However, if the reason you keep returning is because the person was good to you and you were afraid of were things were going between you and the other party, then you are showing signs of strength. However, it is still showing signs of uncertainty (which is weakness). It is still well advised that you talk to someone about what is going on inside you. It is very obvious you have an internal struggle going on and you don't have all the answers. It is highly possible that talking things out with someone else could help you sort out your troubles and make a permanent decision. After all it isn't fair to the other person if you keep coming and going from their life for whatever reason. Again, it is suggested that you get an unbiased opinion, someone who will be completely objective in their opinions and views.
Some places online that offer professional services and psychic services are: www.keen.com, www.psychic-horizons.com, www.absolutelypsychic.com, www.AskNow.com, and so many more that can be found easily online or in phone books.
If you are having trouble in a relationship, if you keep going back and don't know if you should be there, you do need emotional support. Psychics are professionals too and have a certain code of ethics too despite the misconceptions of them. It is a good idea to consider a psychic when looking for help when you consider all the different types of professional help you need or want.
Important things to remember, if you call a psychic, do not expect miracles. A true psychic can't tell you every possibility or event that will happen in your life. The future is not set in stone. Psychics are human. They make mistakes just like everyone else. A true psychic most likely can't see every possible life path. Not all work on visions, some work on impressions or feelings.