by Jade Fitzgerald

Created on: July 21, 2009

You've done the hard work, you've secured the date. But the panic is still there; What should I wear? Where should we go? And most importantly what should I talk about?

Before you go on the date it's a good idea to prepare yourself and think about the things you'd like to say. Make a note and keep it in your pocket or bag. The chances are the conversation will run freely and you won't need the list but it's reassuring to know you have a safety net.

Brush up on current affairs; watch the news before you go, read a magazine etc. If the conversation slows down you then have the option of saying Did you see this on the news?

Start off with some small talk: Did it take you long to get here? I like your jacket etc. If it's a blind date or you're only just getting to know them you can also ask about their work, what they do and if they enjoy it.

If you're in a restaurant or bar you could ask questions about the menu and ask them what food/drink they enjoy.

You could then ask questions about their hobbies; Do you play any sport? Are you a member of any clubs? Do you travel much? Any holidays planned? Are you a film person? What's you're favourite film? Which bands do you like?

As the date goes on you should begin to feel more comfortable. Perhaps throw in a few random questions; What would you do if you were invisible? If you could have dinner with any person, dead or alive, who would it be?

As the conversation builds don't be afraid to discuss serious issues, but steer clear of anything controversial religion, for example. You don't want to offend your date or start an argument.

Remember, a first date is all about selling yourself so be positive and steer away from being negative. For example, your date might ask if you like your job. It's ok to say no but don't get too carried away and criticise your work colleagues or your boss. Nobody likes a moaner, especially not on a first date.

On the other end of the scale though, don't boast, nobody likes a big head. If you like your job and think you're the best person in your company there is no need to say so.

Talking about sex is also a no-no. A girl talking about sex on a first date could make her date think she was easy, while a guy making sexual innuendos on a first date will look sleazy.

Finally, a first date should be exciting so smile and enjoy yourself.

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