by Suzy Stembridge

Created on: July 21, 2009   Last Updated: July 22, 2009

Although cohabiting with another human being may seem like the most natural thing on this over-crowded planet, some roommates are oblivious to the apparent dos and don'ts when living together. Even if clear boundaries have been set, there is no guarantee that the relationship of two different personalities will survive under one roof. Most people will agree that if you want to screw up a friendship, move in together.

Living with a roommate may have many advantages, but sometimes a better opportunity may presents itself to you. If you find that the current living situation is starting to dissatisfy you and coincidentally, you've found better living quarters, do talk to your current roommate about the possibility of moving out. Communicating about the pros and cons you are considering will help clear some issues that your current roommate was not aware of. Talking about it paves the way for a smooth transition, keeping the friendship intact. Don't wait for your roommate to be out grocery shopping to move all your stuff out before they get back.

If you find that your roommate is too rambunctious in their ways, find a suitable time to tell them about it. Most people aren't aware that their cheery disposition can annoy others. Explaining that while you can understand the reason for such behavior, toning it down a notch or two might save you both any future altercations. Talking about it leaves room for behavior modification. Don't write a long emotional letter detailing exact moments when you find him or her most irritating and then leave the letter under their computer mouse for them to find while you are not around.

While dividing up the house chores is efficient and productive, you may find that planning is better than execution. While both of your may agree on the list, one of you might occasionally slip up and 'forget' their responsibility. If you find yourself on the other end of the agreement, talk to your roommate about it. Express how it may seem unfair for only one part to fulfill a contract agreed by the both of you. Don't do their chores while they are within earshot, ranting about an imaginary third party's lack of commitment. It only creates friction and make you sound crazy.

While communication is the key in surviving any relationship, sometimes tolerating each other might not be worth the rent and location. It takes a lot of effort and sacrifice to live together harmoniously. Setting a standard criteria while looking for a roommate might nip problems in the bud at an early stage. While we hope to find that perfect roommate or strive to become one, most often than not, most of us find ourselves living with a complete nut case or slowly becoming one.

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