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Low self-esteem is more damaging to a man or, woman's relationships than most people realize...

Issues resulting from low self-esteem can be as complex as a 'seemingly hypnotic' attraction to physical abuse or, as mundane as a simple refusal to accept a well-intentioned compliment. There are about as many reasons for the existence of low self-esteem in an individual as there are individuals or, so it seems. But, causes will not be dealt with in this article, nor remedies. However, ways in which relationships can be damaged through 'failure to deal' will be!

Merely by being too needy, people with extremely low self-esteem are certain to suffer for it and cause others around them to suffer. Check to see if you recognize yourself (or, anyone you know) in the following descriptions of just a few of the traits often associated with poor self- image.

1. POOR JUDGEMENT of another's character. This is dangerous when choosing a person with which you would desire a close, and even intimate relationship because you have immediately begun to picture a 'fairy tale' ending in your mind before there has been so much as a first date. Childlike gullibility and (unearned) trust take precedence over good old fashioned common sense!

Unrealistic expectations have usually begun to form by the second, or possibly third date. From then on, it is generally a barrage of disappointments - one painful "let down" after another. Dates repeatedly broken, phones failing to ring night after night, promises going unkempt! And, the pattern is repeated over and over, until finally - it has become a vicious cycle that appears unlikely ever to be broken.Break it!

2. SUSCEPTIBILITY TO ABUSE - physical and emotional, or both! Many woman have laughed out loud when warned of the possibility, even obvious likelihood, of this ever occurring in their relationships. Many of those woman are no longer laughing today. Now alone and discouraged from ever seeking another intimate relationship with anyone again, they admit that the time to deal with their low self-esteem (and it's causes) was before they got involved with a person (who, like them) apparently had their own self-esteem issues.

*You may never allow someone to hit or, physically harm you. But, know this! Abuse comes in many forms. Most woman (or, men, for that matter) really don't understand that screaming and yelling is abusive behavior and that there is no place for it in a healthy, loving relationship. If you grew up in an abusive home,

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